Truth be told, most of us don’t feel very loving when we’re having a staredown with misspelled words, poor punctuation, and disorganized reports. So how can we put a positive spin on editing and grading when we’re feeling peevish?
Here are three heartfelt tips for how to love your kids’ writing, especially when you’d rather wad it into a ball and toss it across the room.
(These tips are excerpts from the full article you can read here.)
1. Show Love with Words!
Frustration overseeing the same old mistakes can keep our emotions at a slow boil. The poisoned words: “How many times do I have to tell you…” erupt from our lips before we can call them back—and by then, the damage is done.
It’s easy for me to tell you to start by looking for the positive. But I’ll be the first to admit how hard that can be.
We see: His barely legible sentences
We miss: The strong verb he chose
We see: Misplaced apostrophes and wild erasures
We miss: That meaningful idea or correctly spelled word
No matter how bad the writing, no matter how many errors, there’s always something to praise. We only have to look for it—even if it’s hidden between the lines.
It’s easy (though unhelpful) to say “good job.” Instead, write a note on the paper that says, “I love how you used the word ‘splash’ here. What a strong verb!” Or, “I’m proud of you for remembering to indent this sentence.”
Keep a collection of comments on hand that are both constructive and positive, and refer to them when your own well runs dry.
2. Show Love with Colors!
When correcting a paper, it’s so easy to zero in on mistakes, isn’t it? Instead, show love by looking for things your kids did well!
Try a bright highlighter pen to circle a challenging word your child spelled correctly.
Ditch the Red
The color red often goes hand in hand with anger. Some children have a negative association with red pen marks. Even if the same pen has been used to write positive comments, they still believe they’ve been graded harshly.
This isn’t to say you should never use a red pen, but add variety from time to time by also using pens of different colors, such as purple, green, or hot pink.
Use Proofreading Marks in Various Colors
Introduce your children (even your younger ones) to basic proofreading marks like the ones you see on the free printable (PDF) linked below. [This chart is one of the handy printables found in WriteShop Junior Book E and Book F.]